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boringoldraphael: I’m so bored of stories about guys who like having fun with their fun friends but then learn a valuable lesson about responsibility from their not fun girlfriends and in the end settle down and mature and become an adult who still gets to have fun with his friends sometimes, but the rest of the time has to be in a boring mature relationship because that’s what grown-ups do. Because what a bummer that is for the girlfriend, to have to be the responsible one, to have to be the one that actually cares about their relationship. Because of course she doesn’t have any of her own friends that she likes to have fun with — she’s just a prop for the male character’s development. It’s a trope every bit as stale as the manic pixie dream girl and it’s so boring. The boy, goof-off sweetheart that he is, forgot the anniversary, or didn’t read the baby books, or took the girl for granted, so busy was he chasing his own dream. And the girlfriend rolls her eyes because, oh, boys will be boys, and it’s all fun and fine as long as they can get married at the end, because of course that’s all the woman really wants. It’s a weird kind of sexism in the form of flattery— you put the girl on a pedestal, you flatten her out. She’s a passive aggressive wet blanket stick in the mud who instead of chasing her own dream just wants her boyfriend to be a little bit better, when really she should want a better boyfriend. It’s so super-gross, especially in a kids’ movie, but it doesn’t make me angry, not really. I’m not offended or shocked or outraged when I see movies like The Muppets. I’m just bored. It’s so boring. And I’m so so bored of being so bored.

boringoldraphael:

I’m so bored of stories about guys who like having fun with their fun friends but then learn a valuable lesson about responsibility from their not fun girlfriends and in the end settle down and mature and become an adult who still gets to have fun with his friends sometimes, but the rest of the time has to be in a boring mature relationship because that’s what grown-ups do.

Because what a bummer that is for the girlfriend, to have to be the responsible one, to have to be the one that actually cares about their relationship. Because of course she doesn’t have any of her own friends that she likes to have fun with — she’s just a prop for the male character’s development. It’s a trope every bit as stale as the manic pixie dream girl and it’s so boring.

The boy, goof-off sweetheart that he is, forgot the anniversary, or didn’t read the baby books, or took the girl for granted, so busy was he chasing his own dream. And the girlfriend rolls her eyes because, oh, boys will be boys, and it’s all fun and fine as long as they can get married at the end, because of course that’s all the woman really wants.

It’s a weird kind of sexism in the form of flattery— you put the girl on a pedestal, you flatten her out. She’s a passive aggressive wet blanket stick in the mud who instead of chasing her own dream just wants her boyfriend to be a little bit better, when really she should want a better boyfriend.

It’s so super-gross, especially in a kids’ movie, but it doesn’t make me angry, not really. I’m not offended or shocked or outraged when I see movies like The Muppets. I’m just bored. It’s so boring. And I’m so so bored of being so bored.

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  4. teacupanatomy reblogged this from thoughtiwasagun and added:
    People on Tumblr are so stupid sometimes. It’s The Muppets for christ sake. The Muppets. The Muppets. It’s not sexism....
  5. thoughtiwasagun reblogged this from boringoldraphael
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  8. -sam-i-am reblogged this from boringoldraphael and added:
    [emphasis mine] I disagree...it being “sexism...flattery”....
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  12. maeby-tonight reblogged this from boringoldraphael and added:
    She didn’t roll her eyes...Muppets, she threatened to leave him. Come on, if you were...
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  15. stokan reblogged this from boringoldraphael and added:
    I loved The Muppets. LOVED IT. I loved it...much I would marry it (you know, if I...
  16. draike reblogged this from harahiro and added:
    YES PLEASE. No more romantic sub-plots that are only there for the sake of having a romantic sub-plot. MAKE THEM GO AWAY...
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  18. aj-elloo reblogged this from clankerskank and added:
    well duh. its called the muppets not the humans. lol
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  24. harahiro reblogged this from boringoldraphael and added:
    romantic sub-plots altogether i mean for fuck’s sake garfield and transformers had romantic sub-plots